1. Facts are facts - they are not inherently good or bad. They do need to be considered as part of a whole big picture and not in isolation or they can create an inaccurate perspective. If the information I share stirs up feelings of fear, or anger, or gratitude; if you find yourself feeling sadness or joy or regret - - those things you're feeling are your feelings; they are your personal responses TO the facts. It's okay to have a strong emotional reaction to information which challenges your worldview or which is in conflict with decisions you have made. Take time to explore WHY you are reacting so strongly. Even if you feel scared or angry, please don't write off the information as merely being a scare tactic. Look deeper. If you think I'm providing imbalanced information, or that I've missed something important, feel free to contact me with links and sources that can help me be better informed. I will absolutely take new points of view into consideration.
2. When I say something like "abc has been shown to lead to xyz" that doesn't mean I think you're a bad person or are making the wrong choice if you chose abc. People make choices for a vast array of complex reasons and I trust that you are making the best decision you can for the circumstances you're in. Whether I personally agree with your choice or not is irrelevant, and the fact that I have stated "abc can lead to xyz", doesn't mean I think everyone should always avoid abc. I'm not in your shoes, and I have to live with the outcomes of my own choices, not yours.
3. Finally - and truthfully this is the one that bugs me most - just because you've never heard of something before doesn't mean it isn't true or possible. I've never seen a live vaginal breech birth but I know it is a normal birth variation which can occur safely in the hands of skilled practitioners. I've never seen a potato explode in the oven but I still poke holes in it to let the steam escape. I've never seen a 1 year old lap-travelling baby become a projectile in an airplane, but I will still advocate the use of a carseat for children under two travelling by air. To say that something can't be true simply because it has not happened in your life is illogical. Saying "well I played in the streets till dark & I'm fine" doesn't necessarily make it safe for your child to play in your streets till dark. When you are hearing information for the first time, especially when that information is personally challenging, it can be difficult to accept. I get that. And while our own personal experiences in life shape and mold our decision-making, and impact our tolerances for certain risks, they again are only piece of the puzzle. We can't help but take our personal experiences into consideration in decision-making, but our own experience of something or lack-thereof should not ever be the prime influence in how a wise decision is made. At least not in my opinion. ;)